This past week has been one of the toughest weeks of Lindsey Beres, the Founder of Bent But Not Broken’s (BBNB) life.
Mr. Sebastian, Lindsey’s trusted feline companion of 11 years, started to be reclusive, sat facing the wall, not eating, and vomiting green liquids. With the special bond they had, she immediately knew that something was wrong and took him to the vet that day. Only problem was, it was Christmas Eve and any blood work wouldn’t be back in the next 48 hours, thus leaving them without answers.
NOTE: The reason why Lindsey is such a do-er, is because she is a machine. She sees a problem, gathers information to make the best plan to solve it, and then works hard. Only problem is that physically, Mr. Sebastian was exhibiting many terrible signs, but knowledge wise, she had no idea what the actual problem was so treatment was in question. They didn’t know what to treat!
Today, Dec 27th, Mr. Sebastian made it through the night. Lindsey hasn’t slept in days and has been taking his temperature every hour. It has gotten up to 105 and 107 when felines are supposed to be 100.5 to 102.5. This is dangerous because as Dr. Casey says, it is a huge stress on his little body that hasn’t eaten in 5 days and could cause permanent brain damage =(
HELPLESSNESS: Often times caregivers feel the emptiness of helplessness. They want so bad to just fix their loved ones problems and take their pain away. The care givers of care and they don’t know what they can do to take the pain and suffering away. I can’t imagine what it was like for Nancy (Lindsey’s caregiver and mom) watching her 19 year old daughter fight to finish college and accomplish tasks she usually did with vigor because she ill. It is a lot like Lindsey and Mr. Sebastian right now. He is only 11 years and most cats live 15-20 years. He is fighting to keep his head up when he usually runs around with excitement.
SADNESS: Mr Sebastian has been with Lindsey throughout everything. He is her silent confidant. Keeping all her secretes and always listening. Having his special food, perch in the sunlight, and the whole bed if he wanted it, leaving her only a small corner. He lays with her when she doesn’t feel well fighting CFIDS disease…he has lasted though out all the boyfriends, friends, and ups and downs in moods and weight…She has gone into debt when he gets sick with vet bills, sacrificed vacation trips because there was no one to watch him, and even evicted a room mate for letting Sebastian outdoors leading to a THREE MONTH adventure! He is Mr. Sebastian and the overwhelming sadness has taken this patient of CFIDS and made her a caregiver.
WHY WE CHOOSE TO SUPPORT CAREGIVERS TOO: Caregivers are amazingly strong and loyal people in patients lives, and they are the reason why they have been included in Bent But Not Broken. They deserve the support and love of others as well. The deserve to know that there is a support system out there for them and people who care about their well being and filling them up after they have dumped everything into their patient. We love, respect, and appreciate our caregivers and there are not words enough that could ever express the patience gratitude or what they mean to all patients around the world.
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