If you are a healthy caregiver or supportive individual that is reading this… Have you ever felt so overwhelmed you could just collapse? So many things on your plate you just want to scream or cry?
Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome (CFIDS)/ Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) patients… Have you gotten so frustrated or overwhelmed with the medical process that you strike out in anger? Or become so stressed that you start to physically hurt even more?
THINK BACK… WHAT DID YOU DO IN THAT MOMENT? WAS THERE SOMETHING THAT MADE YOU FEEL BETTER?
When you are angry, upset or in pain most of us naturally recoil. Whether that means retreating to a room to be alone or physically recoiling into a ball, most humans both sick and healthy do this. I think we all handle our pain differently, and unfortunately I let mine get the best of me which resulted in me lashing out. Even more unfortunate I lashed out at my caregivers, the ones that love me the most.
I’ve also noticed that when I am in physical pain, the last thing I want is to be touched. I’m not cuddly, I don’t hug, I stand with my arms folded and seem incredibly guarded. If you’ve ever felt pain all over your body you can understand these sentiments. In addition to feeling that way physically, I lose all desire to be intimate or close with my partner, which is insulting and hard for him to take.
BUT…WHAT I’VE LEARNED IS THAT TOUCH CAN ACTUALLY HEAL ME EMOTIONALLY & ASSIST WITH PAINS
When I am emotionally angry… a hug can calm me. When I am in pain, a gentle and loving caress or massage can show me someone cares or wants to help
In fact, physical touch has documented health benefits!!! Skin is our largest organ and our greatest sensory instrument. Scientists have demonstrated that nurturing touch releases endorphins and other brain messengers that can:
- reduce stress and fatigue
- boost the immune system
- ease pain
- lessen depression and anxiety
- slow the heart rate
- lower blood pressure
- increase circulation
- help premature infants gain weight
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